10 Wise Choices to Skyrocket Your Happiness

I came across this article wrote by "Gail Brenner" and I thought I want to share it with you, this is phenomenal and a good foundation.

Skyrocket Your Happiness

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By Gail Brenner

“The amount of happiness that you have depends on the amount of freedom you have in your heart.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Who doesn't want to be happy? Just take a look at any moment of your life, any choice you make. Isn't your intention to be happy?

By happiness, I don’t necessarily mean the pollyanna, silly-smile-on-your-face kind. What I mean is a deep sense of contentment, the capability of being peaceful and at ease no matter what, an inner knowing that things are just fine.

Somehow true happiness eludes us, and here’s why. Even though we long for it more than anything, we make choices that derail us. We choose stressful behaviors, distorted beliefs through which we view the world, and emotional chaos. And in doing so, we interfere with our potential to be happy.

Happiness is absolutely within your reach. In fact, it closer than close – the essence of you. How to discover happiness? Make a study of your thoughts and emotions. See what makes you unhappy, then plant your feet firmly in the land of happiness. Make these ten wise choices, and the deepest happiness imaginable will be revealed.

1. Take responsibility. Don't blame others, turn yourself into a victim, or wait for someone to come and save you. If you want to be happy, take the bull by the horns. Be willing to figure out how you stand in the way of your happiness.
2. Embody enthusiasm. Be willing, open, courageous, and humble. Admit what isn't working and be available to the possibility of real inner change. Keep your quest alive.
3. Drop your old baggage. Nothing kills happiness more quickly than old hurts, resentments, and grudges. If you are spending your precious time stuck in a sad story from the past, realize that you are being affected way more than anyone else. Wrap all of that pain in a vast cocoon of love, then move on with clarity and grace.
4. Become intensely interested in your inner life. The cause of unhappiness is the playing out of conditioned habits that don’t serve you. Find out what they are and use a laser focus to see how they work. With your new-found awareness, make healthy, life-affirming choices.
5. Question your beliefs. We unknowingly build our lives around distorted beliefs and expectations. Put every thought under the microscope for examination to see if it is actually true. You will undoubtedly find that you are living through a veil of confusion and limitation. Be willing to step away from these familiar and cherished beliefs and see everything with fresh eyes.
6. Appreciate presence. Happiness is found here, in the eternal now – not in the past or future. Relax. Let all efforting fall away, and receive everything just as it is. Luxuriate in the wonder of your senses as you go about your daily life.
7. Study your emotions. Life becomes heavy and burdensome when we are ruled by difficult emotions. The medicine for this emotional pain is interest and attention. Stop telling yourself stories that fuel your emotions. Rather, welcome the direct experience of the feelings and the sensations in your body. Let them be without needing to get rid of them. Over time, they will lose their power over you, and you will be at peace. The clouds will lift, revealing the happiness you have been searching for all along.
8. Live from your heart. Shed every thought, emotion, and habit that no longer serves you. What is left? Love. Let love permeate your conversations, activities, and the way you treat yourself. In any moment, ask, “What would love do?” then do it. Savor the deliciousness of a full and open heart.
9. Choose freedom over fear. Fear is another happiness-killer. Know when fear is driving your choices, and choose otherwise. Meet fear with love, then have the courage to act on what you really want.
10. Let happiness pervade your life. Every moment presents the opportunity to be happy. If you doubt me, just take a look at your own experience. When you break it down to its bare essence in the moment, you will realize that a choice is always possible. Nag or be silent, self-criticize or self-love, sustain stress or take a deep breath, perpetuate a habit or unravel it until you just can’t keep it going anymore.

When we are at peace with our own experience, we can’t help but be happy. Nothing is in the way. We see through the fog of faulty beliefs and dramatic stories, leaving us available to consciously choose happiness – now, and now, and now. It’s right here, can you feel it?

Happiness is no longer a mystery. Make these 10 wise choices, and the endless well of happiness will be revealed to you.


Are you happy? What interferes with your happiness? I’d love to hear…

Perseverance

Perseverance

 

Perseverance

Perseverance – persistence in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.

What is perseverance?

Perseverance is commitment, hard work, patience, endurance.

Perseverance is being able to bear difficulties calmly and without complaint.

Perseverance is trying again and again.

How do we not lose our way in this difficult time?

How do we maintain our clarity, stamina and faith as we experience disruptions, set-backs and obstacles?

How do we persevere on behalf of the people, places and causes we love?

Like it or not, there will be difficult times in our lives, whatever it is, it’s essential that you don’t lose hope. You must have hope that you will go through it. If you don’t, you will only drag yourself down. You will enter a vicious cycle where your negative attitude makes the situation worse, which makes you even more negative.

To not lose hope you must have faith. In my case, I believe that God is in control of my life and has a good plan for me. No matter how bad the situation looks, I’ve learned to trust Him, even if I don’t understand how things will work. Time and again, things turn out to be good, often in a way that I couldn’t understand earlier. Going through difficult times is hard, but going through them alone is even harder. You need a group of positive people who can support you. You should become a part of a community that cares and encourages one another. If you don’t, my suggestion is to start looking for one. Don’t wait until you need it, because by then it will be too late. You need the community before difficult times come.

What separates success and failure is one thing. That is perseverance.

Identify your goal. Your goal may be to climb Mount Everest, to stop smoking, to get a better job, to lose weight, to gain more self control, to get yourself out of harmful habitual habits, or anything you can think of and desire to achieve. Educate yourself about your goal and develop a plan to achieve your goal. Realize that if your goal is very lofty that you will likely face multiple challenges and failures along the way. It is important to spiritually, and mentally, prepare yourself for these failures.

Nobody ever succeeded by not trying. Many people procrastinate in taking the first step because they fear failure. Failure is guaranteed when the first step is not taken. If you fail, realize what it is that caused you to fail and get back up. Keep on trying. If you stupidly make the same mistakes over and over you must not get depressed. Take a new approach to the situation or purpose in yourself to try harder.

Remember “Winners never quit and quitters never win”

Do not keep trying things that will damage you unless you have a clear path to improvement.

Perseverance is about pursuing a higher goal and developing an ability to deal with setbacks and failure on the way. Persevering is a combination of mindset and habit. Automatically it’s about having the stamina to actually keep going and doing the right things. Mentally it’s about knowing where to go and how to deal with setbacks in the right way. Perseverance alone will not make you successful, but without it you will never get anywhere, and with it you can go further than most people.

Never ever, ever give up and never; ever keep on to elements draining you from live.

Love, Living, Live. 

Intimidation

Intimidation

Intimidation

Intimidation – the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do something.

Why do we intimidate others?

People try to intimidate others for many reasons. One of the biggest reasons people choose to intimidate others is for dominance. They want to show others that they are more powerful.

Why do we allow ourselves to be intimidated?

It could be due to one of the following factors; status, low self esteem, perception or depression.

Conclusion; Not comfortable with one’s self.

I used to be intimidated by good looking, clever or high ranked people until I changed my view, which is that we as humans are all meant to shine with what we have been given. Good looking, clever or high ranked people work just as hard as others. We have to realize, as average people that we are the ones that put these people on a pedestal, and rank ourselves as lower level. Change that by being self confident and comfortable in your own shoes. I AM THE MOST! AMAZING PERSON I KNOW!!

We here at PierrePressure strive to intimidate the “Peer” in a positive way by means of,  guidance through  our challenges, and examples set by the PierrePressure readers. 

Although intimidation will always be part of our lives, it’s still in our discretion to be influenced in a negative manner. No matter who or what you are, YOU were created by God as a human being to rule over His creation. RULE does not mean to intimidate those who are weaker in spirit and mental capacity. “RULE - control of or dominion over an area or people” and this is where you as an individual must set the example and not succumb to intimidation.  Its your duty and most of all........your right!

“There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me.” ― Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

In life we will often face difficult challenges and intimidating circumstances.

I offer you the advice a friend gave me.

We can't control the actions of others but you can control how you react to them. An action can only be intimidating when you choose to be intimidated.

PierrePressure Dare you to stand against intimidation and lead by example.  Do what the “Peer” fail to do. 

Stand against intimidation

Set the Example

Set The Example

Set the Example

John 13:15

'I have set you an example so that you should do as I have done for you.'

- The Lord has set an example for us as to how we should live our lives.
- The life you live should be a demonstration of your faith in God.
- Our lives are a book that others can read.
- In the end, the example we exhibit can touch the lives of others.

LORD, help me to follow the example You have set for me and cause my life to touch the lives of others as a result. Amen.

There are many people one influences. The influence can be good or it can be bad.

If one conducts his life to keep these recommendations, one is setting a good example.

Others around one cannot help but be influenced by this, no matter what they say.

Anyone trying to discourage you is trying to do so because they factually mean you harm or are seeking to serve their own ends. Down deep, they will respect you.

Your own survival chances will be bettered in the long run since others, influenced, will become less of a threat. There are other benefits.

Don’t discount the effect you can achieve on others simply by mentioning these things and setting a good example in your own right.

The way to happiness

requires that one set a good

example for others.

Be conscious for people who call themselves your friends with phony intentions. 

Self Love

Self Love

Self Love

Why do I need to fit in, be part of a group or the need to draw attraction?

Every human has the need to belong, to be appreciated and the most important.........to be loved. If that need is not filled or approached at the wrong time with the wrong influences, it will suck it up like water in a sponge just to fill that need.

   

Love

Love is the substitute for every one of these desires. And the greater love of all is the love for one self.  When you change the way you think about yourself, your life will change. Yung people who feel good about themselves are more likely to fall between the cracks in society and are more resilient in creating positive futures for them. 

Promote

The question though is how to promote self love in the younger generation? Self love is like a child's shield against the challenges of the world. Kids who know their strengths and weaknesses and feel good about themselves seem to have an easier time handling conflicts and resisting negative pressures. They tend to smile more readily and enjoy life. These kids are realistic and generally optimistic.

We all have a mental picture of who we are and how we look. We develop this picture over time, starting when we're very young. The term self-image is used to refer to a person's mental picture of himself or herself. A lot of our self-image is based on interactions we have with other people and our life experiences. This mental picture (our self-image) contributes to our Self Love. 

The best practical way to promote Self Love is to make one person feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by others. 

Valued - “held in great esteem for admirable qualities especially of an intrinsic nature”

Promote the good quality in your child; make sure that he/she knows what that quality is and that they are appreciated for it. 

Loved – “A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness”

Show them that you really care, build on that relationship as a fortress for safety. 

Self Love

Accepted – “generally approved; widely regarded as normal, right, etc”

Let them know that they are approved and regarded as normal although they make mistakes. And that you set the standard of approval, not their friends. 

Thought well of by others

By creating and fostering the tree elements above, the “Thought well of by others” will take place spontaneously.  And thus will then by its turn promote Self Love and nurture all the feelings to fulfilment. 

Self Love

Conclusion

No matter who you are, or where you’re from, or how you look, YOU ARE! Entitled to be Valued, Loved, Accepted and Thought well of by others. Do not belief that you need to participate in under duress events just to be accepted. Love yourself for what you are and build on your good qualities, change the concept of “Simply because everyone else is doing it” to........everyone else is doing because I am doing it. 

You are awesome for GOD don’t make no junk.   

ps: YOU!! must be the most amazing person you know.              

Tenacity

Tenacity means to stick with something even when the going gets tough. Never give up. Never surrender! Tenacity all so means the quality or state of being.

2013/10/14

PEER PRESSURE
Definition

Social pressure by members of one's peer group to take a certain action, adopt certain values, or otherwise conform in order to be accepted.

Peer pressure is a social influence exerted by others on an individual. The pressure is exerted in order to get someone to act or believe in a similar way. The peer pressure is acted out by a peer group against others, often be in an “everybody’s doing it” kind of way.

Reverse of Peer Pressure

Independence, self-will, self-dependence, self-reliance. In short it’s called PIERRE PRESSURE

SO WHAT IS MY BLOG "PIERREPRESSURE" ALL ABOUT?

Objective:

To guarantee a sense of security against being the outcast for not participating in under duress events. 

To change the element of “Peer Pressure” to “My Pressure” by giving one the ability to influence the “Peer” in a positive sense. Activating the need for Independence, self-will, self-dependence and self-reliance.

Target:

To illustrate the opposite of “Peer Pressure” by doing amazing things and influencing the “Peer” to a positive extend thru my actions.  

Pierre Pressure

My hope is that this Blog will change the concept of “Simply because everyone else is doing it” to........everyone else is doing because I am doing it.

IT'S ALL ABOUT MAKING THE RIGHT DECISIONS!

                                                                                                                               2013/10/14

Every day we are faced with risks, whether they are small or large we will encounter them.  The key to being successful is taking those risks that may seem scary, however once you run with a risk it could end up being the best decision you have ever made.  Rockefeller was a master at taking risks, he did not believe in the concept of fear.  Instead when he was faced with a risk or a decision he tackled it head on and that is how he became the vicious business man that each student learns about in his/her history class.  Take a risk every day.  By doing this, you will get more comfortable taking bigger and bigger risks.  Start out small.  Thinking about it will not get you anywhere, go do it!